Divorces can get complicated, especially if you and your former spouse cannot agree on the basics, such as child custody and property division. These disputes can happen anytime during the proceedings, which can cause tension between parties.

You can hire a mediator to help you and your former spouse reach an agreeable settlement. If you need a mediator to help sort out conflicts, you can try the following:

• Ask the court about free mediation programs.
• Check your local Community Dispute Resolution Center (CDRC).
• Consult a divorce mediation clinic.
• Get free services from the New Your Legal Assistance Group's (NYLAG) Mediation Project.
• Look at professional dispute resolution associations near you.

These services are only appropriate for working out general arrangements during your divorce. Complex issues like domestic violence or alcohol abuse might require expertise beyond mediation.

Matters that might need mediation

Additionally, you can hire a mediator if you need help with visitation setups and other concerns with your child's welfare.

If you cannot find one that fits your needs, the judge can refer a professional who underwent a screening process demonstrating their specialization. You can also enter special programs that focus on supporting your kids emotionally.

Other services to help you through divorce

Emotions can run high during a divorce, resulting in long-term distress and parent-child problems. You might need help processing the situation and meeting your children's needs. Here are three types of therapy you can try:

• Therapy for yourself
• Co-parenting therapy
• Therapy for your kids, with or without parents

You should not feel apprehensive about asking for help during your divorce. Meditation and family services exist to preserve and strengthen family relationships through these challenging times.